This week, I turned t w e n t y - t h r e e.
HB to me!
Twenty-two was fun! I had some great time with friends and family, progressed in the 'job world', gaining more experience and getting some jobs under my belt. But, if I am completely honest, I feel like I should of achieved more in that year. I don't like to have regrets, so I don't regret anything I did or didn't do, but I do like to learn from my mistakes and move forward.
I'm in a tricky part of life, post uni but not quite fully into adult life - still living at home, not earning enough to move out. Don't get me wrong, I love living with my mum but ultimately, my goal is to get a job and to earn enough to move out, like most people my age. This year I became self-employed, but that is HARD, seriously hard, which I most definitely underestimated. I'll most likely have some big decisions to make and paths to chose and I want twenty-three to be a year of progress and good choices.
Here's some thing I've learnt in my year of being twenty-two. Things I want to work on next year, reminders of what cherish and some general life advice about drinking too many margaritas...
Nothing is permanent
Things come to an end, both good and bad, which is always worth remembering. But I also need to remind myself that I have the ability to put a stop to things that aren't making me happy and that I am allowed to put myself first sometimes.
If I don't do it, no one else will do it for me
No one else will make that important phone call for me. No one else will apply for that job for me. I put 'scary tasks' off for as long as possible, which means they niggle at my brain for weeks on end. I'm well aware no one else is going to do it, so what am I waiting for?
Weekends are Weekends
I feel a real guilt when I switch off at the weekends, but working for myself it's very important I do. I'm not working full-time so I also feel the guilt that I shouldn't be relaxing because I haven't worked a full week. This year has to be about focused weeks and fun weekends!
You should always listen to your Mum
When your mum tells you to wear a coat, wear a coat! When you don't tell your mum you're getting two piercings in your ear, but know she'd tell you not to, TELL HER and listen to her. Otherwise put up with ongoing ear piercing infections for a month, cry a lot, take a trip to minor injuries and eventually have to take one out anyway. (Oops. Soz Mumma)
The value of friendship
I've always loved my girlfriends and they have always been such supportive, fun and all round babes. But this year, my friends smushed (is that a word?) together - my childhood friend, my school friend, my sister from another Mr and I are one solid girl group and I can't even explain to you the happy feels it gives me. It can be hard having separate groups of friends - you want to be with all of them all the time - so when you smush them together and it works it is the best! My other bestie Luce also moved back from Manchester and it's so good to have her closer to home! Win win for friendships!
I have no idea what I'm doing, but I don't think anyone else does either.
Reassure me on this one, does anyone actually know how to adult? Like, taxes what? Contracts, business, budgeting, making big decisions, anyone have a clue? With age comes experience, so I'm going with that and suppose I will learn as I go on!
Other peoples opinions don't matter
This, of course, is within reason. The opinions of your nearest and dearest are important to consider as they're likely to have your best interests at heart. But the opinion of random school friends your haven't seen for four years or Facebook friend you haven't spoken to for eight years not so much. I worry about the tiniest things, down to things as small as posting a photo 'ah, what if they think I've got a big ego?' 'is it vain to post a selfie?' 'what if I'm posting too much and it's annoying?' Ridiculous. If something is making you happy no one should have a problem with it.
If they do, well... bye felicia.
Put the phone down
A serious wake up call to iPhone addiction was downloading the app 'Moment'. It tracks the time you spend on your phone every day and what apps you're spending the most time on, it then gives you a daily report with a summary. It is absolutely shocking! I have to put my phone down and care less about what is happening online. It's there now and it will still be there in an hour.
Tidy Room. Tidy Mind.
Not exactly a news flash here, but the importance of a tidy desk space/office/room is insane! I can't focus properly unless everything's tidy, so it's the absolute worst for procrastination.
Most Importantly...
A night of drinking Margaritas will be full of salsa dancing, hilarious boomerangs and cry laughing, but will leave you feeling like you have ERODED YOUR INSIDES AWAY AND HAVE NO TEETH LEFT the next morning. You'll text the girls and all agree to not drink them again for a while. Next month another Girl's Night rolls around and you'll hear the call of the marg and you'll make the same mistakes again.
So, here's to twenty-three!
A year of caring less, working more and having fun.
And as my birthday card from my Mumma so aptly said...
'A wise woman once said 'fuck this shit', and she lived happily ever after...'
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I don't know about youuu, but I'm feeling 22!
Couldn't resist, sorry!
Today, Monday 28th November is my 22nd birthday!
It's a little bit terrifying that I'm not 21 anymore. I'm like an actual grown up now. Not that I feel any older than I did yesterday, but it just sounds a lot more grown up. Like I should start getting my shit together, which I'm getting there with... in baby steps... but it's tricky, you know?
I celebrated on Saturday night with my best friends and family. We whipped up some Mexican food (homemade guac going down a treat, as always), Dad was making the Margaritas, the Mexican playlist was blaring (with a few anomalies... 'I'm Drinking Rum and Redbull' made it in...) We played games and laughed until the early hours and woke with very sore heads on Sunday.
Twenty One was wonderful in many ways, some crazy highs and a few lows and I'm very excited to see what this year will bring, but I'm going to save my rambles about goals and achievements for a New Year post.
Twenty Two, let's do this!
I just wanted to write a little note about November. It's always one of my favourite months and I just wanted to say why...
bonfire night
- Crackling bonfires and the kind of fireworks that make you go 'wooow' as they light up everyones faces. I've got exciting plans with family and friends full of food and fireworks. I'm hoping to film a nice little video too
autumn
- Autumn is in full swing, showers of orange leaves fall from the trees every time the wind blows and the countryside is like an artists palette of beautiful autumn colours.
goodbye uni
- This year, I'll be graduating with a 1st from university. Graduation feels like it's been a long time coming as we're pretty late to be having ours, but I can't wait to tie the final bow on my uni years.
twenty two
- It's birthday month! I don't think I'll ever be over the excitement of birthdays. I have lots of plans with my favourite people and I think that's one of the reasons birthdays excite me so much, I get to say 'Hey, all you people who constantly make me smile and laugh and who make me feel loved daily, come and spend a day doing fun things together' what's not to love about that?!
the lead up to December
- I don't just find 'Christmas Day' exciting, I find the whole thing exciting. The lead up, the time with friends, time with family, watching films, getting cosy, celebrating, playing games, wrapping presents, that warm, cosy feeling you get throughout the whole of December.
This look will feature in an upcoming Autumn Lookbook on my channel, but if you want to know any details...
what I'm wearing
jumper :: BooHoo
jeans :: Matalan
lip colour :: NYX Liquid Lipstick in Cannes
What do you love about November?
I had the BEST birthday ever.
I was surrounded by my incredible friends and family the whole time and I can not express just how much I love them all. I received lovely messages, beautiful cards and such wonderful gifts that yesterday, albeit in a sliiightly hungover state, I got very emotional about how kind and lovely all the people in my life are. If any of you are reading this, I love you & thank you thank you thank you!
I won't ramble on, because I could definitely still cry a lot about how fantastic they all are, the wonderful memories and the fun times.
So, 21... let's do this!
I may be a little M.I.A this week!
It's my wonderful boyfriends birthday today and we shall be celebrating all week!
We're heading out to our favourite place, Jamie's Italian, for dinner this evening with his parents. Is it sad that I'm already excited about my 'Meat Plank' starter... mmmm (it's my absolute favourite thing, ever!)
Happy birthday you lovely man!
Feeling very lucky to be the girl that gets to spend special days like this with you.
All the love in the world Mr.
xxxxxx
So this weekend, I celebrated turning 20!
I had the most wonderful weekend with some of my favourite people, so it would be rude not to document it on here. It's a photo heavy one, so be prepared!
On Tuesday evening my Dad, Step-mum and brothers popped down to take Hen & I out for dinner. We headed to Bills!
A strawberry daiquiri for me, one of my favourites.
Ethan just loves spending time with his big sis, just look at that enthusiasm!
On Tuesday evening my Dad, Step-mum and brothers popped down to take Hen & I out for dinner. We headed to Bills!
A strawberry daiquiri for me, one of my favourites.
I went for crispy squid to start, the Bills Hamburger for a main and warm doughnuts with chocolate dipping sauce for dessert!
It was a lovely pre-birthday meal and so great to see my family!
A few days later and Friday 28th November had rolled around, it was my birthday! Breakfast, presents and cards in bed from my two amazing housemates Abi & Fran.
We lounged about all morning, then ventured to the classiest of establishments (ehem... 'spoons..) for some drinks and food.
I had a hair appointment booked at Electric Brighton to get a bouncy blowdry done! I would recommend the salon to anyone, lovely staff and fabulous finished looks! They do a great student discount too...
Friends started to arrive, we got ready and then we were ready to celebrate!
Saturday was, lets say, a fragile day for everyone. Very relaxed and chilled! On Sunday, Mumma popped down and we spent the day roaming around Brighton, then went to Jamie's Italian for dinner with Henry & his Mum & Dad. Jamie's is my absolute favourite!
So, just a little round up of my birthday weekend! Check out my birthday vlog, which will be going up tonight!
xxxx
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